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Relationships... Read Gladys' blog today and kind of related to my last blog and ties in nicely to today's theme of relationships. Gladys, if you're reading this, I hope you don't mind me linking to your page. But I really liked what was written about "Friends of the heart" vs "Friends of the road." To sum it up, friends of the road are people who come and go in your life and they're people you are really tight with for a while, but maybe lose touch with on your "road of life." Friends of the heart are people who are long lasting buddies that are with you almost all the way through your life journey and who stick with you through thick and thin. Glady's says that "Neither categories are better then the other, what matters is how the friendship sustains us right now. The main point, however, is Friends of the Road aren't failed friendships; they helped us through that time in our lives, and for that we are grateful." I like. Well said. Lyds and I and many others have been debating the past little while on the topic of "Can guys/girls be best friends without ever liking each other or viewing the other person as more than just a friend?" Very hard to answer this question straight up, and I'm sure that there's no right answer. First we need to define some terms. "best friend - n. - the one friend who is closest to you" says Dictionary.com. "Viewing the other person as more than just a friend" is also very subjective. For our purposes, we'll just say "having feelings more than that of just a normal friendship" (ie. some sort of attraction by one or both parties.) Now, in our model, the guy and girl are best friends. There is no human non-family member in this entire world that is closer to this person. It's hard to say. I think in most cases, and I emphasize most, at one point in the relationship, one or both individuals will develop some thoughts or feelings or even. But I think there are some exceptions to this "rule." 1) Childhood friends. 2) One/both individuals already have a significant other. 3) One/both individuals are gay. 4) There is clearly established communication preceeding the relationship about feelings/emotions concerning the issue. I'm sure there are some more exceptions. As Megs says, each circumstance is different, but when you're that close with someone, it's very easy to lead into something else. I also think it's very easy to misinterpret actions and different things, which is why clear communication on the issue has to take place and both parties must be aware of the situation and the others' position on it. Otherwise, I know of (and have experienced) many "close friendships" which have resulted in one or both of us liking each other. Also an interesting trend, guys tend to answer this question as "No, it's not possible to not like each other", where as girls mainly answer it as "Yes, it's definately possible." Hmm, something more to think about it. I don't know. Any thoughts?! I'll try to get a comments thing up soon. Good day today, very happy, not too tired. Went out for karaoke with CCFers and Carny called too. Gonna talk to Megs jeh now. G'nites. posted by jamescl | 1:15 AM
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Thanks to my buddies for adding colour to my otherwise dull life.